It happened to me again :(

[Mamma_Mia]

Thank you. This is EXACTLY what I am talking about. WHY do you feel they have to give you anything? Why do providers feel that appreciation in the form of cards or gifts are something we have the right to expect?

Why is is so important to you (individually) that parents express their appreciation for your services by doing anything other than being respectful of your rules and policies?

That expectation is what is at the root of this "problem". When other providers start posting about their gifts and cards...they are basically saying "Look what I got from my parents...what did yours get you?" and then you automatically feel like you aren't appreicated or cared about if you didn't get anything....kwim?

It shouldn't be about the gifts, the money or the cards of appreciation. It should be about the respectful, professional relationship between a client and a service provider. You charge a fee for your services, set rules and boundaries for your home and business and clients pay in a timely manner and respect and follow your rules and policies. They stay long term and SHOW you how much they value your services and what you do for their children.

NO where in that formula is there a written rule or expectation that the agreement between the two you includes a card or a gift.

Did you give any of your clients a gift thanking them for their services? (I don't mean DCK's or the gifts you helped the DCK's make for their parents.)

Bottom line is Christmas to me isn't about getting anything. It is about celebrating the birth of Jesus and I think waaaaay too much time and energy is spent on pissing matches about who got what and why.

I am sorry you feel unappreciated by your parents and that none of them gave you a card or a gift. I can't change that for you but what I was doing was trying to help you see it from a different perspective so that you can avoid the hurt feelings next year. I am sure your parents all appreciate what you do for their children and for the services you provide....if they didn't they wouldn't be in your program. Hoping you have a great holiday and a wonderful New Year!

I can only speak for myself but the people I'm talking about aren't the ones to say THANK YOU for feeding my child dinner since I was 30min late AGAIN. Thank you for lending your daughter's clothes to my son since I again forgot to pack his extras, thank you again for being up at 7:30am waiting for me when I only show up at 8:30am becauce I forgot to tell you.....NO THANK YOU EVER so I would think that at the holidays would be a perfect time for someone to say or give a card (doesn't have to be a gift) to say an actual THANK YOU.

Another thing, you DO NOT have to understand how or why I feel a certian way. It's how I FEEL and I CAN feel it if I WANT to. You don't agree.....we get it (eyeroll at your constant 'trying to prove a point' which we got about 20,000 posts ago) You don't agree....fine. Let everyone else WHO DOES agree or at least understands do so without being attacked by YOU and how you feel they should feel. You made your point.... Thanks