Tattling/telling on each other

[apples and bananas]

I will often bring them together and ask them to explain both sides of the argument. Then I ask them how they should solve their problem. I always offer suggestions at first. But eventually they start to just give me all the right answers. I will say "what did you do to solve the probloem" "did you let jimmy know you didn't like what he did" "did you let johnny know it was not safe" Often they just run to tell and don't use their words first.

This has 2 effects on the problem. 1. they learn how to solve their own problems and 2. they get really tired of me going on and on about it when they really just want the other one to get in trou ble.