How would you react to this

[gramma]

If you had a parent email you to say that they had a few things to discuss with you regarding a past event and future but said that they will do it 2 days from now because that is when you will see them next how would you react? I'm livid. I have no intentions of waiting 2 days so I can be unprepared and get ambushed at the end of the day. just curious what others think. I have no idea what the past even it either LOL.

[BlueRose]

I would be livid too.
I would email asking to know what the event was, so I would have time to recall all the details about it. That way we can have a fair and helpful talk.

If they email you with the event. I would sit down and make notes of everything I could remember about it.

[Dreamalittledream]

"....a parent email you to say that they had a few things to discuss with you regarding a past event and future but said that they will do it 2 days from now..."
Who does that? Weird?! I guess I could understand an email saying "can we set up a time to meet/phone call?". I probably would respond with "it's tough to talk during daycare hours, I'm free this evening (or during nap time) for a phone conversation if that would work for you?"

[kidlove]

i would give a call immediately and ask to talk now rather than anticipate for later....and if they want a face to face, have them come over at a convenient time for you and your business. I find it a little rude to leave you hanging like that, if they really need to talk to you regarding something but would rather do it face to face....they should keep quiet until they see you face to face.

[gramma]

I sent an email back saying that I was left feeling uncomfortable and would apreciate know what the issues are beforehand so that I am prepared to discuss it. My feeling is that she wants me tobe off guard. If Idont hear back from her today, I will ask dad flat out tonight. I have a feeling i know what part of it is because i challenged her on something and she like to be or at least think she's controlling me. its the past even that has me curious.

[Skysue]

i would give a call immediately and ask to talk now rather than anticipate for later....and if they want a face to face, have them come over at a convenient time for you and your business. I find it a little rude to leave you hanging like that, if they really need to talk to you regarding something but would rather do it face to face....they should keep quiet until they see you face to face.

Dido I would call right away, how rude of them to put this added anxiety on you. I would say when you call that you would like to discuss the matter right now as in a few days you may not be able to recall the incident as accurately.

Make sure that the matter get discussed right away.

Good luck.

[gramma]

Mom doesnt work in the type of job that she can chat on the phone. I dont mind waiting until tonight to talk to dad, he is more reasonable anyway. Truth of the matter is that I have been contemplating terminating this family because of constant schedule changes. she wants me available 5 days a week so she can change her schedule as she needs it but doesnt want to pay for 5 days to guarantee my availability which is what I challenged her on. now this.

[kidlove]

Oh Gramma! have had so many families like that, I currently have one just like that. Have had them for about 3 years and now have a second sibbling to care for as well, they are constantly changing the schedule even though they are supposed to have a set 3 days a week. and to top it off when I told her what she would owe now having two in care she almost cried....I feel for people who are struggling to pay for eveything, however!!!!! HELLO, so am I. Then to top it all off she also wants me available dif days than her set plan and expects to pay the three day charge, very tempting to explain to her, IF she continues to use dif days like she has been so far, I will have to charge her for full time for both children. She won;t like to hear that, but it seems some people just dont understand. I can't fill the extra spots I have if she keeps moving her kids into them..........welcom e back!

[gramma]

Dont mistake my kindness for weakness, my ability to overlook things as ignorance, but make no mistake when I've had enough, I'm done.

thats how i feel about this woman right now. She knows exactly what she did with that email this morning, and could have responded to my reply but she is going to leave me hanging. I have been doing this for far too long to be treated like an employee. i am extrememly flexible but changes in schedule are not for her to decide and dictate to me, they are to be discussed and like it or not, the final decision is mine.

[playfelt]

That is when you hand the dad termination papers at the end of the day explaining about the email which he may know nothing about and say it sounds like your wife is unhappy with my care and therefore here are her termination papers to save her the trouble of having to take two days to figure out how to approach me.

My guess is you will get a phone call tonight and the conversation over with and then you can decide if you leave the termination in effect or give them another chance. At least you have taken control and not let her bully you.