Hey Ladies! (this may be a long one)
Just wondering if any of you have had to deal with my 4 yr old dcb. He has the worst temper tantrums!! And they are over the stupidest things!! He loses it if I make him share a toy, put him in time out, if someone is in 'his seat', if I make him walk beside me because he's doddling too much, etc. It's really hit or miss though. Where one day he is pouty about something and the next he goes ballistic. He has never hurt himself or anybody but he basically just throws himself and screams/cries/whales at the top of his lungs. What I have normally done is set him off by himself (if he's not on timeout) and then tell him when he's done having his moment then he can come play with the rest of us. If he's on timeout I simply remind him that his time doesn't start until he's finished his outburst and quite often I'll ask him something on the lines of 'do you think that this behavior is going to get you what you want?' where through his fit he'll say 'no'. If we are on public he'll walk behind me wailing and the group just keeps walking ignoring it or if we are at a park or something everyone just carries on while he has his moment (I just smile at everyone who is walking by because it really doesn't bother me that much). I have talked to his mom about it and most of the time IMO it seems like it's a joke but from what I understand this is an everyday occurrence at home and most times she just sends him to his room where he puts his head at the bottom of the door and screams through the crack .

Today was the last straw though when I had a dad picking up his daughter and after me asking the 4 yr old to stop rough housing with his brother a couple times and finally me catching the 4yr old flying at his brother I asked him to sit in timeout until I was finished and he bloody lost it!! The dad's face winced at how loud and out of control he got. We both tried to make a joke out of it but seriously that was embarrassing!. I spoke with the mom today and told her that I had a very serious talk with him about his unacceptable behavior and that he will be apologizing to the dad tomorrow at pick up. She didn't seem too concerned as usual and actually told me that she gives me full permission to toss some water in his face to snap him out of it because sometimes that's the only thing that seems to work with him I was like ummmm.....i can't do that..... (ps. just in case any of you are thinking abuse I have absolutely no concern about his safety in that area I just think she really is at her whits end it with his outbursts as well)

Anyways, do you guys have any other suggestions as I would really like to help this boy/family out with his emotions. I honestly think this boy has ADHD (not only because of his tantrums but other things as well) but I don't think it's my place to say anything. What to do!?