Immediate Termination - Deposit??

[Sandbox Sally]

Mom called today and literally begged me to keep her son on. As I suspected, she won't be sending the sibling, but she wants to continue sending her boy. She gave me the whole, "he loves it there so much, and it seems so cruel to rip him away from people that he has a bond with".

I relented. He's staying. I feel like a pushover.

One more thing though, I think I will reach my breaking point...

[kidlove]

Oh no alpha......you sound like me. Can't say I wouldn't have done the same as you in the end! However, chances are things will go rocky again, perhaps you should advertise for the spot, then when you get a replacement you won't feel as bad giving notice for past issues, OR replace and by that time, they will probly screw up again. all kidding aside, good luck and hope it works out, we ladies in this profession tend to go with our heart from time to time, nothing wrong with that!

[playfelt]

See if you can get a sense out of the mom how long he is staying as in when will the other caregiver she has found for the baby have a second opening. Expect by summer, etc. that you will lose him anyways.

[kidlove]

Keep in mind she could be trying to hold you for a bit until she can get both in the same place?

[Lou]

I hope you had a long talk with her about her husband's behavior!!!

[jazmic]

Keep in mind she could be trying to hold you for a bit until she can get both in the same place?

Good point.

[Skysue]

You should still advertise for the spot and see what comes your way, people that are that disrespectful rarely change.

[Momof4]

Don't beat yourself up, you'll know when you've reached your last straw Alpha. I have a family that's been hanging on by the skin of their teeth for over a year because of a whole bunch of small things that build up to make a caregiver insane. However, they are never rude, they always pay on time, and there is nothing big that I can use as an excuse to let them go so I keep hanging in there. I understand your dilemma.

[Sandbox Sally]

Yeah, I think I will be ok if they walk away at some point. I have my ad up here and on Kijiji, and at this point, I will consider removing the family from care if I am able to find someone else.

Thank you for all the support, everyone. It's nice to know, too, that I am supported even when I am a pushover.

[playfelt]

Think of it not as being a pushover but of doing what is best for you - letting them stay till you replace them means more money in your pocket and pressure off to look for the right replacement family.