Teh teens in the house is one I have had. Interviewed a family a couple years back - son by this point was away at university 8 months a year with a guick 2 weeks home at Christmas and they were overwhelmed by the p rospect he might be here while their precious was in care - and it was a boy not even that it was a girl. I kindly but firmly reminded them that this was a family home and that my son was welcome to come home whenever he wanted and to stay as long as he wanted and there's the door please take your hang ups with you as you leave - and I got constructive and told them to consider a nanny or a daycare centre where interactions were more controlled.

What was so weird was the fact my husband would have been home for the last half hour while child was here, home whenever he wanted to be etc. and that in my contract it says he will be here to help with the kids if possible on days I am sick. They didn't care that he would be in the house all the time but cared my son might come home to visit his mommy once in awhile - ok well bye, bye. This will always be my own kids' home first.