I feel for you and you obviously have a very big heart. I'm not sure what area you live in, rates certainly vary. When I first opened, I chose to start at the low end of the range of average childcare rates in my area just to build up a clientele and have gradually raised those rates to where I am now at the high end. So, keep in mind, you don't have to charge the same amount for future clients and you can raise the rate of current ones (I think yearly is reasonable). As for your current situation of the child you pick up/drop off...you really have no choice...refuse to continue, continue with increase in fees, or simply go on as you have been (& feeling bitter about it)...those are your choices...I don't know how to help you with that one but to say work on being strong and putting yourself and your family first. Best of luck to you!!