What do I do next?

[kidlove]

def know when to say when with certain kids, families, or issues. That being said: if you are not qiute ready to say when yet...there are a couple things I did with a little girl I had, same age, same attitude that tended to work most days. given she seems to be an attention hog, I would remove her from the area or room if possible when she is acting out, no words with her no conversation.....jus t take her by the hand in the middle of her fit or acting badly, walk her to a quiet room or area where she can not get anyones attention or see anyone and place her there, if saying anything at all, perhaps tell her to "stay" and walk away! if she throws a fit? good! you know it affects her. in doing this (with most kids who act out) you are not only NOT giving her what she wants, which is ANY form of attention, positive or negative, but you are also "training" her to remove her from a situation that frustrates her. If you stick to this method, you may find after too long she will request to be removed from the room if things get too tough for her, or she will willing go into a quiet room or place to cool off! The other thing you can do is to ignore her behavior, IF she chooses to throw herself on the floor or act out toward you or anyone else, just igbore her and encourage others to do the same, whether it be Mom at the door for pickup or other children, if she screams, look at Mom and all others and audibly announce that no noe is to talk to ____ or look at her until she is willing to bahave properly and or appoligize for being mean or disrespectful. Encourage Mom to do the same at home, we all know IF a parents is not following through the same as us, our efforts can often be wasted. i have also in the past taken the trouble girl aside in such situations as outside paly and had her sit on the porch for the rest of play and watch the children have fun rather than take part and explain to her it is because of her poor choice of behavior. Also offered the kids special (out of schedule) snacks treats or rewards for positive behavior in front of the trouble child, also explaining that when they choose to behave they too can take part in the fun offer or special treat, but otherwise may sit and watch the others enjoy their much earned reward or take early rest time while others enjoy it! Always put enphasis on the positive in a child like this and much less attention on the negative. These kids are generally "attention seeking" little people and in their opinion ANY is better than none at all! give them none when poorly behaved and you might be surprised at how well they figure out how to get the attention back, but in a good way! good luck! these types can turn your happy days backwards, stay strong, and know when enough is enough, for your sake and hers.