thanks everyone for the suggestions. i have had numerous talks with dcp and we just dont seem to be getting anywhere. i have tried talking to her, time outs, "big girl" behavior getting her to help me with something, a quiet activity without the other kids, nothing seems to be working. all my other kids (ranging from 12 months- 4 years) come in with a smile and hug for me except her. all i get is tears lol. its just so difficult because i know if i term it will be the same somewhere else for her. i just worry that it is affecting the other kids which i do not like.