Oh shoot I just typed this big reply and it disappeared! Thank you, playfelt for your thoughts! I feel like I am at my wit's end especially because I have a new friend joining us on Monday! Me laying with them has to be a very short term solution because I have to be able to get up, walk around, have a cup of tea, etc. another thought that just popped into my head is that I could get the 14 mo and 2 yo to lay on their mats and I could wear my 13 mo in my carrier.
My dcg will stay on her mat, and the 2 yo is apparently a great sleeper at daycare and home (the mom is a friend of mine so I trust her), but my own son will not do well on a mat by himself just yet and like I said, he completely loses it during naptime in a playpen or in his crib (I have tried both). In his stroller or in my arms he is a great sleeper. I'm just so frustrated because I have 2 bad nappers, both still quite young and only 2 hands!! Haha!