Biting and hitting

[daycarewhisperer]

although I have NO room for biting in my program, I do stand back and allow children to work out their diferences (with in reason) on their own before I interfere. I dont often get two kids that down right hit or hurt one another, but every once in a while there is a push or grab of a toy and I will not remove the toy or seperate the children right away, I will stand back and see if they can work it out first, IF things go too far, I will intervene but ONLY if required. I want to give the children a chance to figure out their problems for themselves. If I model the appropriate behavior a time or two, "give the toy back, and appoligize" or "take a turn" or "say sorry and give a hug", I will stand back and observe the behavior when issues arise, and they usually work it out based on what example or suggestion had been set/made in the past.

I don't do these things. I don't do sorry or apologize. I don't let them work it out. I have the older seasoned kids model appropriate behavior. I don't stand back and observe when an issue arrises. I do limit the toys I have out to toys that have a proven track record of not being "fight" toys.

Here's an article I wrote about toy playing rules: http://www.daycare.com/nannyde/there...m#comment-1422