3 year old having difficulty adjusting...parents want to pull her out?!?

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I don't have a probationary period as no two children are alike and I don't think that 2 weeks gives any child a fair amount of time to settle. Some kids just take longer than others. For a 3 year old having no consistancy at least for the last 6 months as you explained, in my mind it may take longer for her to adjust. I personally wouldn't have given the parents so much feedback as they have a tendancy to over react because of course this is their child. What this child needs to break this poor behaviour pattern is consistancy, structure and caregiver and parents being on the same page. I don't think the 3 year old should be allowed to determine the daycare day or how the house is run at home by being so demanding and with the misbeahviour, but as long as people keep passing her around and the parents keep giving in it's just going to be the same old thing over and over. I would tell the parents that if they are comfortable then I would like to work with them for as long as it takes to have her happy to come to daycare and settle in. Thats just how I would handle it and obviously the reality with other kids in your care is that this can't go on indefinitly so I would put a reasonable time limit on it to then sit down and review it. Maybe 6 to 8 weeks. Also while I know a lot of providers on here wouldn't do anything after regular hours, I would have a face to face meeting with BOTH parents prior to the time period to discuss what you will be doing and what they will be doing so you can work together to curb this behaviour. I think with these things put in place and your agreed methods of dealing with this behaviour then she could be a lovely child to have in your daycare its just a matter of helping her get through this rather than just letting her go. Good Luck