3 year old having difficulty adjusting...parents want to pull her out?!?

[Inspired by Reggio]

Oh good lord ~ if you start letting your 3 YEAR OLD CHILD determine if they go to childcare or not the mother might as well quit her job and stay home because if she learns throwing a 'fit' gets her to not have to go the fits will just ESCALATE!

My children love it here but given the choice what child does not want to be with a PARENT ... and even though my crew love it here there are times they come in complaining they would just rather be at home ~ heck how many of us love our jobs but some days we just rather stay in bed ~ children are no different it does not mean they cannot thrive in the program if supported and encourage to focus on it is not a choice we all have to be here so let us make the best of it!

I know that 'red flag' parenting articles indicate that a child not wanting to 'be left at daycare' is a potential indication of it not being a match or a high risk issue ... however that advice needs to be taken with a grain of salt becomes sometimes crying is a normal stage of development when you are factoring in the child's age, personality, temperament and what is going on in the home life and so forth!

This poor child has been through so many changes from the sounds of it ~ her behavior while totally inappropriate is understandable given the circumstances as she is likely ANGRY that she no longer has first her nanny and than her last provider and friends she made there are gone to and she is in this 'new place' now ... she is acting out in an attempt to gain some control over herself and depending on how smart she is she could make the connection that if I behave bad enough many Momof4inpink wont want me to come here and maybe I can go back to previous friends!

Personally I would be talking to the parent about ways to help her through this while STAYING if you want to try and if they are happy with you, your program and so forth and the other child is obviously happy and thriving that it is clear that this is '3 year old behavior' and not an issue with your program .... if they change programs AGAIN the behavior is just going to FOLLOW because it WORKED!