Hey!! New here. Please I need your help.

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Hi! Welcome to the forum!

I went through my own nasty divorce. I can say that schools and daycares can't deny the father picking the kids up without a court papers stating that. She needs a court order stating that she has sole custody and that only SHE can make decisions surrounding the children's day to day lives. I had the papers, but even with that, schools and daycares don't like to be in that position. The deal I had with the school was that if Dad showed up, the kids would be taken to a different classroom and I would be notified immediately of his arrival, so I could come and get the kids.

The very best you can do is to allow the kids to go with dad (ask for ID) and call the mom right away to notify her. So far as the grandparents go, I don't think they can pick the kids up without written authorization from one or both of the parents. I'm not sure of all the legalities and it also depends on where they are in the divorce proceedings. If it's just Mom saying she doesn't want it to happen without any legal back up, she's out of luck. I'm a bit concerned as to why she is only allowed to take them to daycare....that's odd. Sounds like she might be considered a flight risk???

Honestly, I'd be on the side of your husband. I'd be looking to extricate myself from the situation. If they're early in the process, it's only going to get uglier (if my divorce is any indication). You certainly don't want to get yourself ensconced in the battle, picking sides or any of that. It may backfire on you.

That's just my opinion