I will make that suggestion to mom tonight. Thanks for the idea. Im so frustrated right now. I went in, which i never do and she's lying down making noise but clearly tired and I gave her a soother. She doesnt have one, but I have them on hand for my dcg who does use them just in case we lose one. She took it right away. Mom nurses her still a bit and I've said from the begininng that i felt that was an issue. Mom tried to stop but she was so exhausted sometimes that she gave in. I dont know much about nursing because i never did but if mom isonly nursing a small amount and not even everyday she must not be providing nuourishment, just comfort right? Not sure how to bring it up to mom if the soother works, but she's still quiet. the other little guy with her isnow awake so not sur how long she'sll stay quiet. thank god its friday