Separated parents

[Inspired by Reggio]

I will admit I am paranoid about the 'custody' thing because more than once we had children who were basically 'abducted' from the daycare by a parent who waited for the other parent to drop the child off and than came in and picked up the child and took off with the child ... the one case the mother had given the centre a 'letter' she had signed stating that the father was not to pick up the children anymore as she did not want him having access ~ when he tried to take her we called the mother and the police while trying to stop him he waited for the police to arrive and stated their was no court order denying him access and his wife was just being a 'beotch' and the police told us we had no choice but to release the child or they would have to charge the staff with unlawful confinement ~ the father took off with her and the mother had to fight in the courts for over 6 months to get access back and well it did not play well on HIM to behave like that because he ended up only getting 'supervised' visits because he had proven he could not be trusted.

I just wish that adults who choose to have children can put them FIRST when things go astray in the relationship between the two adults ~ I have not had to deal with any 'separation or divorce' since working from home thankfully but I do not tolerate conflict if it every arose and the clients could not be 'grown up and put their child first' they would be GONE cause no amount of $$ is worth dealing with that in my program and the negative impact it has on all the other children including the poor one in midst of the divorce ~ as much as I would empathize that the poor child needs stability in that time not at the expense of my entire program!

[sunnydays]

Thank you all for your feedback on this! I had thought of the custody thing, but not the other things mentioned...I will really have to think about this one. I didn't think to ask questions about what the arangements are in terms of primary residence, who is going to pick-up, who is paying, etc. If I decide to go ahead with this family I will have to ask a lot more questions to make sure.