Quote Originally Posted by Momof4 View Post
Spixie, the last 3 children who joined my daycare took between 2-4 months to settle in. My first question for you is to ask if the child is full-time? Because I realized that I probably would have shortened the crying span if I had insisted on the children coming to daycare full-time. I weaned them in at a couple days a week, then 3 for a few weeks, then 4 for a few weeks and I don't want to do that again. Once they finally become full-time they usually settle down within a few weeks but every child is different. There's no rule unfortunately. Don't let anybody tell you there is a definite time limit to follow.
She started FT in July and it was tough going but I thought it would get better.

Then in November she went to 3 days a week....and now in January she went back to FT. I think she was more tolerable and better during the PT.

I am not sure whether this is still transitioning or whether she is just not a happy child. There has been another child who started in between who is happy go lucky and lovely to have around but this one just seems to cry at everything.

You just say the word NO to her or 'don't touch' and she bawls as though you were horrible to her.

I bounce between feeling guilty for how I feel about her and giving her extra love and attention to then thinking it is too much and not fair to the others. Yesterday she was crying so much that I had a moment where I just wanted to call the parents and say "I'm sorry but I can't do this anymore."

Having 4 children happy and 1 sourpuss ruins a lot of our fun. The other kids will want to play or do an activity and be having fun and then the DCG is crying and takes away my attention and the moment is lost and you can see that the other kids are disappointed and frustrated too. Even the other children will tell her to stop crying because nothing is wrong.

She will have some good days where I think - yay ! She is getting the daycare idea now and fitting in and relaxing but then after a day or two we are back to the crying and miserable mood.

I'm just going to hope that somewhere along the way she turns happy and stays that way.