Good day fellow providers,
I have been a viewer for quite some time and have finally registered on the site yay me

I am in need of desperate help here. Just started a 10mth dcb, suggested parents to progress him to my schedule before starting (wasn't done) so now i am having a heck of a time.

He is a very happy baby!!! Love him to pieces.
Problems are as follows:
1. Doesn't self soothe to nap (either falls asleep drinking bottle OR they rub his back which takes forever and I will not do)
2. Will not eat lunch when we do

What I noticed he does when I have followed his lead for a day:
Arrives usually at 730am so has breakfast(baby cereal with yogurt) with us,
Needs a nap around 930ish ( 20-30 mins), will not eat his lunch with us, just wants a bottle and nap (but I am busy with others so I just sit him at table with us) then he has his bottle after trying twice to feed him solids with no luck. He will sleep for 30mins-1.5 hours. Then sometimes will eat some lunch for me but it's about 230 pm.

I cannot rub his back to sleep as I have others to care for, I have asked parents to start teaching him to cry it out or something .

Bah I'm so frusturated

What do you all think?