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Need opinions and ideas please(new dcb on own schedule)
Good day fellow providers,
I have been a viewer for quite some time and have finally registered on the site yay me
I am in need of desperate help here. Just started a 10mth dcb, suggested parents to progress him to my schedule before starting (wasn't done) so now i am having a heck of a time.
He is a very happy baby!!! Love him to pieces.
Problems are as follows:
1. Doesn't self soothe to nap (either falls asleep drinking bottle OR they rub his back which takes forever and I will not do)
2. Will not eat lunch when we do
What I noticed he does when I have followed his lead for a day:
Arrives usually at 730am so has breakfast(baby cereal with yogurt) with us,
Needs a nap around 930ish ( 20-30 mins), will not eat his lunch with us, just wants a bottle and nap (but I am busy with others so I just sit him at table with us) then he has his bottle after trying twice to feed him solids with no luck. He will sleep for 30mins-1.5 hours. Then sometimes will eat some lunch for me but it's about 230 pm.
I cannot rub his back to sleep as I have others to care for, I have asked parents to start teaching him to cry it out or something .
Bah I'm so frusturated
What do you all think?
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hi and welcome to the forum..... I would have a talk with the parents and let them know he needs to be on your schedule ....I would give it to them in writing....I would not be giving bottles ....sippy cup only...and finger foods on the tray ....if he's hungry he'll eat....I would start putting him down earlier by 5 or 10 minutes every morning till you have him napping at 8 or 815 for about 30 mins only then he has lots of time till the afternoon nap at 12:30 (or when ever you do your aft naps) put him in bed with his comfort item if he has one, and put a fan on outside the door and walk away .....no rocking or back rubbing......he'll scream for the first week or so but then he"ll figure it out.....but I would for sure tell the parents they need to stop the rocking and get rid of the bottle so that its consistant at both places and you will see results much faster ......I would be mad if I gave my schedule to parents as well as some things to do to prepare their child for group care and they disregarded it.......
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Starting to feel at home...
I'm going to follow this since I have a new little guy and I have the same problem! Sweet little dude... but he has been with mommy for 15 months, rocked to sleep 3 times a day... I find that since I have my little guy.. it's so much harder to let babies cry!
Would you go and pick him up after a while or just let him cry to sleep? because... he's a stubborn one!
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here is my schedule:
7:00 - 8:00am – Arrival/Independent play/ Kids off to School/ Wash up
8:30am - Breakfast/ Wash up
9:00am - Story or Circle Time/ Songs & Stretches/ Naps if needed (little ones)
9:30am - Hands on Activities (arts, crafts, play doh, paints etc....)
10:00 - 11:00am - Outdoor Play (Weather Permitting)/ Table Activity
11:30 - 12:30pm - Wash up/ Lunch/ Clean up/ Story Time
1:00 - 3:00pm - Nap Time for all
3:30pm - Wash up/ Snacks/Clean up toys
4:00pm - Outdoor Play (Weather Permitting)/ Independent play/ Sing & Dance
4:45pm - Wash up/ Clean up toys
5:00 - Home Time
**As of now he doesnt take a sippy at home so i am pushing this here (just plays with it)
they bring his food (baby food) but he will not eat at our lunch time. (too tired?)
He doesnt have a comfort item, as for the an on the outside? of the room or inside?
as for the 8-815 morning nap are you suggesting my 9am is much too late? We know he will just scream and scream so probably will not nap. I have never had a child that did not have an item (soother, stuffy, blanky)
thanks soo much!!
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*fan* sorry
Oh and Mondays he doesnt come until 1030am. and obviously she lets him sleep in which i understand bc your tired but until he has adjusted to our routine I believe they just need to suck it up and do it! Am I harsh?
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I'm having my own sleep issues with a 16 month old so i cant offer much there lol. i will say that a 10 month old may have different sleep needs that the older kids but with time and persistance you should be able to get him on the same schedule. as for feeding, i have never had a10 month old who could hold a sippy cup. as for not eating, perhaps he is getting enough from his bottles. is he having bottles every 4 hours or so? my youngest dcg started at 8 months and had formula every 4 hours which i quickly adjusted to match mealtimes as she approached the 10 month mark but she is a good eater at lunch and snack times. you absolutely have to tell parents that if they arent on board with teaching him to soothe himself to sleep it will take a very long time before he'sold enough to understand the difference of being at home and at daycare. its in everyones best interest to be working together, especially the little one.
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Originally Posted by meaganb3
*fan* sorry
Oh and Mondays he doesnt come until 1030am. and obviously she lets him sleep in which i understand bc your tired but until he has adjusted to our routine I believe they just need to suck it up and do it! Am I harsh?
nope, not harsh at all. they need to dowhats best for him. personally i would stop the late arrival on mondays. I find late arrivals to be a huge inconvenience.
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when he arrives in the morning at 7:30 a.m. put him straight to bed. Have the parents feed him before he comes to daycare. When he arrives at 1030 p.m. keep him up until 1130 p.m. and then put him down for a 3 hour afternoon nap.
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I'm with Daycarewhisperer on sleep times, personally I wouldn't push the sippy cup until you get him on a good routine, too much change at once can be to much for one so young. His bottle sounds like his naptime soother to me.
I had a baby once who always took a bottle for nap even after lunch, sometimes she only drank a few sips then fell asleep.
Maybe talk to Mom about possibly replacing the bottle with a soother? Could help, bottom line be very upfront with the parents you all need to be 100% on the same page in order to ensure success.
Welcome and good luck.
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I think we have to convince the parents that conditioning their child for daycare is in their childs best interest.
I know for me, feeding a bottle is not possible at lunch, so at the interview I tell parents "I physically am unable to feed a bottle so it's important that your child is starting to get used to a sippy before he comes, otherwise it's going to be uncomfortable and confusing for him"
Parents often think that our "demands" are to make our job easier, when that's really not the case. We require certain things be done or well on their way at least so their child has an easy transition into someone elses care.
It's all how you word it sometimes.
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