Advice(sorry so long)

[Skysue]

I have been in your shoes before and yes you feel depressed and like a failure as your not able to gain respect from this child. You are not a failure but you will be if you don't terminate. Trust me this child needs a different environment, he is not being challenged enough by the sound of it and it's not anything that you are doing wrong. It isn't fair to the rest of your group either as he hurts them when your not looking.

Trust me he needs a different environment just as much as you do.

I swear you will feel the weight of the world is off your shoulders once he's gone.

Good luck.

[Momof4]

Thanks everyone. I spoke with parents and told the this attitude needs to change asap or I will have toterminate without notice. I have consistently told the dad of the day everyday he picks him up but was mom who picked him up yesterday (also seen the attitude with me) and had a good conversation. It seems she is on board with me so fingers crossed it works or my sanity comes first and he will be terminated. My problem is I feel like if I terminate that's a fail for me ....which I know isn't true just have never had someone else's child not listen to me before lol....

You are definitely not a failure and I'm sure you have tried really hard to get everything to work out. Most of us do that, try really hard and hate to terminate, but sometimes it's really necessary for our sanity and happiness. I admit I'm in those shoes right now but nothing as bad as you are describing. You have good grounds for terminating if the parents don't start disciplining their child and giving you tips on how they are handling things at home so you can help them change their child's behaviour. Remember, we are supposed to be the secondary caregivers and the parents are supposed to be the ones doing the hard work, not the other way around. However, we spend an awful lot of hours with these children and we deserve to be happy in our businesses so we need co-operative children.

[abster]

Dcb that I'm having issues with has gotten so much better (still a handful but better) since I had a huge talk with mom and dad. I find if I'm extremely stern and have zero tolerance he is much better. The second I give a chance or just a warning it seems to make him push all day. Fingers crossed once we can get outside more things will improve so much more!!

[Crayola kiddies]

Glad to hear you are seeing progress