Advice(sorry so long)

[abster]

Thanks everyone. I spoke with parents and told the this attitude needs to change asap or I will have toterminate without notice. I have consistently told the dad of the day everyday he picks him up but was mom who picked him up yesterday (also seen the attitude with me) and had a good conversation. It seems she is on board with me so fingers crossed it works or my sanity comes first and he will be terminated. My problem is I feel like if I terminate that's a fail for me ....which I know isn't true just have never had someone else's child not listen to me before lol....

[daycarewhisperer]

My problem is I feel like if I terminate that's a fail for me ....which I know isn't true just have never had someone else's child not listen to me before lol....

I've heard providers say versions of that before but usually when the bottom bottom line comes... it is because they want the money.

If it is really about thinking you are failing you can release yourself of that quite easily. It's just words. You didn't take the kid on with the pre-knowledge that he was going to treat you with disrepsect and noncompliance. You aren't getting paid for that and it's not something you should have to tack onto his care for free. You can't fail at something you didn't set out to do from the go.

If it's the money then that's a different matter.

[abster]

I think from now on at interviews for older children I will ask about which daycare they were in. As for the money part I know I can replace him since I have people asking about spots regularly. I just worked very hard at getting his younger brother used to being away from mom and being happy with me, don't want to have all that effort wasted which I know can be a downfall when its siblings that come. I was just looking for different approaches for dealing with the older one. Tomorrow is a new day and hopefully mom has talked some sence into him. I will take away priviliges and see if that works better with him.

[Momof4]

Thanks everyone. I spoke with parents and told the this attitude needs to change asap or I will have toterminate without notice. I have consistently told the dad of the day everyday he picks him up but was mom who picked him up yesterday (also seen the attitude with me) and had a good conversation. It seems she is on board with me so fingers crossed it works or my sanity comes first and he will be terminated. My problem is I feel like if I terminate that's a fail for me ....which I know isn't true just have never had someone else's child not listen to me before lol....

You are definitely not a failure and I'm sure you have tried really hard to get everything to work out. Most of us do that, try really hard and hate to terminate, but sometimes it's really necessary for our sanity and happiness. I admit I'm in those shoes right now but nothing as bad as you are describing. You have good grounds for terminating if the parents don't start disciplining their child and giving you tips on how they are handling things at home so you can help them change their child's behaviour. Remember, we are supposed to be the secondary caregivers and the parents are supposed to be the ones doing the hard work, not the other way around. However, we spend an awful lot of hours with these children and we deserve to be happy in our businesses so we need co-operative children.