Quote Originally Posted by DisneyPrincess View Post
...Its been a year that she acts that way and every day.....but I dont ''tell'' them what not to do obviously....
Well now that the behavior is a 'habit' it is going to be even HARDER to change it specially if you do not have the parents on board!

I agree that every parent has a right to their own parenting style in their own homes cause well they are their children .... however IMO when you choose to enroll your child in a GROUP setting you also need to be prepared to follow the rules and expectations of that GROUP ... if at home your child is allowed to hit and scream and behave like a little demon that is your choice but when you send that same kid to SCHOOL you need to accept that they are going to be sent home or supspended and so forth because that 'behavior' is not tolerated by society!

This is why I have no problem telling my clients what I need and expect from them while HERE ... cause this is my home, my rules and I control what is tolerated here .... if they do not want to instill that behavior or value at home I cannot really control that however I can let them know that inconsistency between home and the group setting will make it harder for their child to adjust between the two varied expectations and if the behavior is a 'deal breaker' for me that their choice not to be consistent about the expectation at home could result in the child being terminated before they have a chance to 'master' the skill because of the inconsistent expectations ... which is usually a pretty good motivator for the parent because it then kicks in that allowing their kid to do this is going to result in no daycare which makes changing the behaviour an easier investment than trying to find a provider willing to deal with that behaviour