''Discipline'' the child when parents are there ?

[mimi]

Oh geez stories I could tell about misbehaviour at the door! I instruct the misbehaviour dck's by telling them before pick up that they can not touch the door (opening and closing, running outside) and that they must listen to mom/dad and no crying. This works for a second and then just like DisneyPrincess said, they give the evil eye and nanana look. The parents don't want to discipline because THEY will feel bad having not seen them all day.
I told my dcb (31/2 yr old still in diapers) not to open/close the door in front of parent. I received a side glance from parent not happy I was instructing child not to do this. Excuse me, wind chill is -25 do you want to pay my heating bills?

[Inspired by Reggio]

...I told my dcb (31/2 yr old still in diapers) not to open/close the door in front of parent. I received a side glance from parent not happy I was instructing child not to do this. Excuse me, wind chill is -25 do you want to pay my heating bills?

I have the same rule ~ if a client EVER side glanced me about it they TOO would get disciplined

IMO this is not just a 'letting the cold air in or out' issue, or a you are going to break my door handle reefing on it which I agree would suck for sure but ultimately are just about money and are replaceable ... IMO this is a SAFETY issue for all the children in my care ... children are not permitted to open ANY door except the bathroom door because at my house opening doors are an adult job so that I know the children are safe at all times ...IMO when a child feels they are allowed to just open a door that exits the house it opens the reality that they could open it when you are not looking and run out into the street ... you hear those stories on the news about children who 'get loose' from the house because they were not taught to leave the door ALONE until they were old enough to earn that trust and they were hit by a car, died of hypothermia cause the parent thought they were napping and did not check on them until too late and other horrible preventable stories had the exit doors been kept locked and had the child been taught consistently that it was not SAFE to open the door by yourself at your age!

[DisneyPrincess]

Oh geez stories I could tell about misbehaviour at the door! I instruct the misbehaviour dck's by telling them before pick up that they can not touch the door (opening and closing, running outside) and that they must listen to mom/dad and no crying. This works for a second and then just like DisneyPrincess said, they give the evil eye and nanana look. The parents don't want to discipline because THEY will feel bad having not seen them all day.
I told my dcb (31/2 yr old still in diapers) not to open/close the door in front of parent. I received a side glance from parent not happy I was instructing child not to do this. Excuse me, wind chill is -25 do you want to pay my heating bills?

I have patio door, very dangerous to squeeze fingers in, and some even bang in the window Now obvisouly I say to the child, to not do that, cause to my surprise, parents dont ! It the summer they will lean in the screen door haaaaaa : If they break it, would I have the courage to have them pay for it

[daycarewhisperer]

The parents don't want to discipline because THEY will feel bad having not seen them all day.

Naw it's not because they feel guilt. They don't want the child to cry. They like the idea that their child gets to go nuts and act horrible because deep down inside them they wish they could do that too. They are quite comfortable with letting their kid get their bad bahviour on in your house because they pay you and you WILL put up with it or not get the money. They also feel their child should have their way and not be upset at all. Their kid deserves that because he/she is special and they are the child of their parents.

It's a combination of a lot of things but guilt isn't even on the radar.

[bright sparks]

Naw it's not because they feel guilt. They don't want the child to cry. They like the idea that their child gets to go nuts and act horrible because deep down inside them they wish they could do that too. They are quite comfortable with letting their kid get their bad bahviour on in your house because they pay you and you WILL put up with it or not get the money. They also feel their child should have their way and not be upset at all. Their kid deserves that because he/she is special and they are the child of their parents.

It's a combination of a lot of things but guilt isn't even on the radar.

I think a lot of parents are like this but please, don't paint every parent with the same brush. Guilt is most definitely on the radar for a lot of people.