Ok! I have 2 questions,

I have a 15 MO boy in care. He's 1 week into his integration, his mom drops him off around 12:30 and pick him up around 4:30. He is now doing much better with drop off, he will cry for a minute or two and then he's good to go! Until Nap time comes!
His mom still rocks him to sleep 3 times a day until he's asleep... then he puts him in the crib and if he wakes up, she stays with him and rubs his back until he's asleep again... if he cries, she will pick him up and rock him again. Now we all know that I don't have time to do that! It would be unfair to the other children that goes straight to sleep and Unfair to myself aswell since I would lose some of my very important quiet time..... for my sanity mostly.
Now we are doing a slow transition, I rock him to make him more relaxed and then i put him in the playpen awake.... But you can imagine the kind of meltdown I have. I usualy stay with him in the room until he fall asleep... but yesterday he cried for 75 minutes.... and he never fell asleep! We tried giving him his mom's scarf so he can have her smell, i has 3 blankets from home, his teddy bear... and TONS of white noise! I don't know how to help him more..... How long should I leave him in the playpen crying...? I know it will adjust but I just feel so bad for him!

Other thing on my mind, I have a almost 3 YO girl that has been grumpy all week, she cries for no reason, she won't play with us and she started to wet the bed....... AGAIN!
Should I try to invite her to participate in the activities and if she refuses I just '' let her be?'' and invite her every once in a while? She usualy is in a very good mood and since the little 15 MO started coming she is acting up!