Interesting points Inspired by Reggio....I will try to focus on teh hurt child first.

I usually address the pusher first because I don't want the moment to pass or for them to forget what they did was inappropriate. I will try this positive approach and focusing on the victim.

I do feel like a monster these days saying 'no, no, time out" all the time. I am sounding like a broken record even to my own ears.