thanks Mom of four. I have decided not to say anything. My sis is so hard to talk to on regular topics and she really doesn't seen to think (or admit) anything is wrong. My family (except me ) is very excuse driven, and perhaps pride filled, they can't admit anything is ever wrong, either sweep it under the rug or make excuses...either way...I wont say anything. I guess i will wait for her to come to me. and I thought of just making a comment regarding a few things but not point toward autism. So hard with anyone to bring up such topics, but family (defensive family) is even tougher. I was afraid IF I said the wrong thing she would pull him from my care and not talk to me. hard to explain her but, I don't think she is one to take such concerns lightly, she would perhaps think I was attacking her instead. he also has other things I concern over, he is almost 2 and his testicles have not descended also barley has a penis....she was on meds for acne when she got pregnant and the dermatoligist told her those specific meds could cause hermaphidyte (sp) child, so it was very important to not become pregnant. He was also in the nic unit for about a month after complications in birth. has never said Muma or dada, doesnt speak at all just growls and squeels to communicate. and when he's excited he wiggles his fingers a lot....these are all charactoristics i have seen in autism......he is very connected to toys, not people so much, reacts strongly to movies and charactors on TV rather than to other humans, and hates loud noises, if a child cries or even shouts in the house, he freaks out and cries throws a fit, growls and drools all over. Also loves repetetive actions i.e. walkinf in circles around the furniture, placing a toy on a chair picking it up placing it on another then repeating that over and over and over.