By the third day they can predict what is going to happen. It's VERY common for the first two days to go well and the third day go awry. I always see it as a great developmental sign when they do this. It means they can predict the future and be able to apply what has happened in the past to what is going to happen next.

Excellent. So give her her time to grieve every day. Off straight quicklike to bed so she has something in the middle of the transition.... dad/mom to you... you to the bed really really fast.... bed to you. Then you will be seen as the savior "taking from bed" instead of the devil... taking them from mom/dad world.