I learned many years ago to stop fretting about the food. Parents are responsible for two meals and I am responsible for one. Child won't die of starvation if they skip a few meals and in the case of not liking lunch they will make up for it at supper. Think of it as a burst to your income. Give the child just a couple bites worth of whatever everyone else is having and think of it as bonus income to you. Do not give a full meal and waste it - too hard on our psychic. Then if she eats offer more the next time. There are actually children that can not eat if the plate is too full or there are too many options so she might do better with one small plate of one food. If parents are going to twart our efforts at every turn to produce happy healthy kids then don't fight it. Just don't be a party to it as in offer the unhealthy foods child loves.