Just want to take off to a private island !

[cfred]

Skysue, I know exactly how you feel. I was very angry about things as well....maybe frustrated is a better word. I was especially frustrated that I have to work so hard to provide for my family by myself whilst my ex-beloved was prancing around living out his dream and ripping through brides (working on #5 as we speak). They're all very valid feelings you're having and vent away! My remedy was to be completely and utterly selfish. Not all the time, mind you, but sometimes.

I do, in fact, disappear to a private island once every year....well, not private, but might as well be! I load up my back pack, get all my camping gear and head to a little island off the coast of Puerto Rico for a week or so, ALONE! It's a lovely, safe and cheap trip which recharges my batteries completely. For that brief period I lay about in my hammock reading, sail to an uninhabited island whilst ogling the captain (of course), drink my morning coffee on the beach at sunrise and splash in the blue Caribbean Sea. There's nothing, and I mean NOTHING like it. I get to be me in my best form and I can swing my arms without hitting children. No one wants anything from me, aside from the odd backpacker wanting to share supplies for dinner or play some cards. It's quite lovely.....April is sooooo far away!

Find your thing that you love, that you look forward to and make it happen. For me, I take on little extra jobs on some weekends, use my GST cheques, whatever for these trips. I make them up from 'found money' if that makes any sense. We all deserve to put ourselves first now and then and we should as a point of maintaining a good emotional state. I find, with my trip, that the months leading up to it are that much more tolerable because I know it's coming. We all need something amazing to look forward to.

Chin up....find your selfish side and embrace it

[Skysue]

I wish I could go away by my self but my husband would divorce me. He is a very jealous sort that these days is sooooooo grumpy with his life. All I can say is I do need a break to re charge and I need to find a way to do it.

[crafty]

I wish I could go away by my self but my husband would divorce me. He is a very jealous sort that these days is sooooooo grumpy with his life. All I can say is I do need a break to re charge and I need to find a way to do it.

On top of working 12 hour shifts during the week my husband also works every other weekend. When I need a break I can't rely on him, money is tight so I can't do much and family&friends are far enough. However every blue moon my kids go on a overnighter at grand ma's place and it's usually the weekend my husband works. Now I have the whole house to myself. It's as close as I am going to get to a private Island but it works real wonders for me.

[mimi]

A "private island" can be anywhere you have peace and quiet and will be uninterrupted for a while. We all need a mental and physical break from our responsibilities and just have some time to chill or do something we enjoy. I am going to give some thought as to how I can achieve my private island time. Hmmmm

[sunnydays]

Yes, a private island can be something as simple as escaping into a good book...or taking yourself for a quiet coffee by yourself...or getting out for a walk on your own. I sometimes feel the same way...like all I do is cook, clean, and take care of others...I know it's because I need to do something for myself. In fact, just this evening I decided I am going to get back to going to the gym...even twice a week...I need the exercise, but it's also because I need to get out and be alone where nobody can ask me for anything

[Momof4]

Skysue, I always say I wish I could go live in the woods and be a hermit and never see another human being. But the truth is, I couldn't do it. We all have people who love and need us even when we are at our lowest. And we need them too.

But I understand what you are saying. What you need is to run away for a quiet weekend somewhere! Rent a hotel room or book a daytrip. Those are wonderful. I have 2 great friends and the 3 of us do daytrips several times a year just to get away and feel like we are running away from everything for a day.

[mimi]

Like a Thelma and Louise except without the cliff LOL

[Skysue]

Like a Thelma and Louise except without the cliff LOL

I'm in but how do we get Brad Pitt to commit!
LoL

[Momof4]

I'm in but how do we get Brad Pitt to commit!
LoL

Haha, I'll have to mention that to my friends, we have been missing out! Seriously though, we really do have to make sure we take care of ourselves and not just everybody else in the world!

[DaycareLady]

Oh cfred! That sounds amazing!! I just had a mini dream vacation reading your reply! I understand how you feel sky! I wish more money came into the house so I could just be home with my kids and jot have to take on 5 others during the day to pay the bills! I get so annoyed when I over hear stay at home moms complaining about, we'll anything lol! I couldn't do this if I didn't get out to the gym almost every night, just to let off steam, see other adults, do something for ME! We have a 24/7 gym here and I love escaping when my babes go to bed (lol with their father home of course). Chin up, think of the amazing impact you are having on so many kids!