Daycarelady,

I went through the same thing with my youngest, when I opened my dayhome. I feel for you!

At first all the toys and rooms were available to the dhk, but I eventually realized it was not going to work that way. My sanity and my son's were way too important. His toys are in his room and he can bring some downstairs if he wants to share with everyone (I have set aside time in the afternoon for him to do this if he chooses). He started in preschool a year and a half ago and loves it. During quiet time he has a choice of looking a books with the other "big" kids or hanging out quietly in his room. He still has his moments when he has difficulties sharing his home, mom and any toy in the house, but it is much better.