NO 2ND CHOICE!!!! LoL
I stressed in the beginning about who was eating what, and how much. But over time, I have relaxed about it. I know that I make good, wholesome food, that is good for them. I do not (to save my sanity) try to cook anything "exotic". Leave that to the parents! I just end up throwing away what equates to MY money.
I usually provide a protein, a carb and a veggie/fruit at meal time, in addition to a glass of milk. At snack, there are at least 2 options from different food groups. That means that nobody should go home "STARVINGGGGG".
I do take note of what just flat out doesn't go over well, with the group as a whole. And maybe I will take that out of rotation for a little while, and try again later. In my experience, "mixed up foods" (casseroles, chili and stews) are not winners. But I know a lot of ladies here serve them all the time. So it just depends on the crew you have.
And have you noticed? Every parent thinks (or tells you!) that their kid is a "good eater". Liars!!! LoL