I agree with the time out circle... If the child is obviously aware and just not doing it.

My guy isn't aware. It's the strangest thing. He has no concept that he's gone or is going or anything!

I won't do underwear in my house until he's prompting to go and doesn't have accidents. Parents are gentle with the subject. "oh, it's ok, you'll get it in your own time" I don't feel that there is any real training going on.

I don't believe it's my job to train, only to support the training that's already being done.

I also have a 22 month old in my care who wants to go! She won't let me change her diaper unless she sits on the toilet. And now she prompts me to use the toilet after her nap. It's fantastic! And I can see that she's pushing... a little gas comes out and she giggles.