If you give her Kraft dinner then the others will want it .... Nope no way she would sit at the table till the food is gone.... Simple as that and when she sees the other kids off playing or having a story read to them and she's still sitting at the table eventually she'll get it. I would just give her a teaspoon of everything and that way if she doesn't eat then it's it a waste. I would also not give her the "dessert" after the lunch what ever it is ....fruit, cookie, muffin, and tell her when she eats the food she gets the treat. I would never make a separate meal .