It is really hard in the beginning...a huge adjustment for you and the kids! Give it time! I remember those days being often in the beginning when the kids would all stereocry and I felt like I was going to lose m mind. Now two years in, I am happy to say that it rarely happens. I think the kids feel our insecurity in the beginning too and it makes them feel even less secure and thus they cry more. Try to stay calm and don't worry about planning any fancy activities...just do what you have to do to survive in the beginning until you and they start feeling more confident and secure. You are very wise to start with just these two and wait until you are ready before adding more. I did the same thing and now easily handle 5 dck's plus my own...but I started with one dck and went slowly. You can do it! Just take one day at a time and stay positive