Help!

[Skysue]

I think you have already made your decision, have you thought about asking another responsible parent that goes to the school anyway doing your drop off and pick up for you, for a weekly rate? With the parents permission of course. I would offer $40.00 a week.

[torontokids]

I was thinking about that as well skysue. I don't know anyone but the mom might.

update- the mom texted me to ask how things were going. I said this morning was rough for 3 yo and we should chat tonight. I am going to talk to her about my concerns and also the b&a to see if she knows someone. I hadn't made up my mind, I just felt stuck like there weren't other options other than terming. If the pick up/drop off can be done by someone else there would be few issues.

[playfelt]

Can you put the three year old in the stroller tied in such a way that he can't get himself out and then if he chooses to scream then let him and ignore it. say nothing more than excuse me XXXX you are disturbing your friends and being rude - ie you have taken notice of it, not lost your cool but not given in either. It is ok to tell him that only children that can listen, obey and walk safely are allowed out of the stroller sorry you have lost that privilege because of your behaviour.

Running off in public is a real concern and puts you in a desparate situation because you can't possibly catch up to him while keeping the others in tow. He sits confined till he earns the privilege back which is likely not for a couple months at least till trust is earned at the daycare too.

[Other Mummy]

Can you put the three year old in the stroller tied in such a way that he can't get himself out and then if he chooses to scream then let him and ignore it. say nothing more than excuse me XXXX you are disturbing your friends and being rude - ie you have taken notice of it, not lost your cool but not given in either. It is ok to tell him that only children that can listen, obey and walk safely are allowed out of the stroller sorry you have lost that privilege because of your behaviour.

Running off in public is a real concern and puts you in a desparate situation because you can't possibly catch up to him while keeping the others in tow. He sits confined till he earns the privilege back which is likely not for a couple months at least till trust is earned at the daycare too.

This. Exactly.

[Momof4]

I use the little animal backpacks with the rope attached to my wrists for my walkers. I take absolutely no chances in having a child run away from me. And Playfelt is right as usual, if you can belt him into the stroller for safety reasons it's not mean at all.

[torontokids]

So the afternoon pick up was better. I brought the double stroller (I find it's not great in the snow so I didn't use it this morning but I sucked it up). He was much better and I was agreeable to him walking with the stroller as long as he held on to the strap. I am using a kiddie leash tomorrow (for extra reassurance) so he can still walk which he prefers. As long as I have the double then I have the option to strap him in if he starts acting up. Mom and I are going to chat tonight, we'll see.

thanks for all your help and support. Today has been a crappy day all around.

[Momof4]

I call it my TODDLER RESTRAINT SYSTEM not a leash!