So I have been posting a lot about my new family (6 yo b&a and 3 yo). I have had a hard time with the b&a and debating terming. This morning the 3 yo had the biggest tantrum I have ever seen (hitting, spitting, screaming, running from me). I had a million parents watching me and even one guy had his cell out (I am guessing to call the cops on me if I lost my cool). I felt like the situation was very unsafe. I had another mother offer to walk the 6 yo to the door for me (20 ft away, I could see him the whole time.) I have never been so embarrassed.

I would like to for sure term the b&a because it's not working for me or the other kids. I figure the mom will pull both though. I think the 3 yo is a lot of work at times but generally a good kid.

Should I call mom at work to talk about it? I would hate to surprise her at the end of the day and have her scramble. I don't plan to give any notice as I feel the safety risks are too high. I will return her deposit

How would you handle this? I feel I could really use some guidance.