How to handle the fall out of terming a child

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I've never had to term either. However, I did have a family pull their kids out before I moved. The 4 yr girl had a tough time with it. She'd walk up to me on an almost daily basis for the final month, little chin quivering, teary eyed saying that she was going to a new daycare. I said 'Yes, you are! What an exciting time! You get to make lots of new friends like you did here and I know your new teacher is excited to have you." Her response - "But I won't get to see you any more". It broke my heart into a million pieces. All I could do was to assure her that I loved her very much and would think about her all the time. If she thought about me too, we could be together that way. It seemed to make her feel better and we enjoyed our last month together. On her last day, I put her favourite stuffed toy from daycare in her backpack, hidden in her other things, with a little note saying that if she was missing me, she could hug her kitty tight. Apparently she had an iron grip on that thing for a few days, then she got over it. I felt that it went well, all things considered. It's so hard to guard their wellbeing - kids have such big feelings for little people and anything you can do to make them feel loved is well worth the effort.