I can't imagine how hard this has been for you. I have no advice, but reading these posts has made me realize how wrong I used to be...I did the whole attachment parenting with my kids, and I am pretty sure they would have had a very difficult time had they been put in daycare. Now as a daycare provider I also agree that too many kids are coddled these days. It amazes me how little parents prepare their kids for daycare, and how difficult this ends up being on everyone...