While a lot of the words are not very nice we have to be very careful that we don't ban too many of them - yes stupid and shut up are on the banned list but boy that one sure works fine around when we having one of those screaming matches between kids. Gets their attention real quick so we can go on with what really matters. I am not one of those paranoid ones about what is said as much as I am about how or when it is said. Any word said to another person with the purpose of hurting their feelings is wrong so whether you call them stupid or red the result is the same. Unfortunately that lesson gets forgotten with the emphasis on banned words - child gets punished for saying a word not for belittling a friend.