Birthday Idea for a Mom

[Bugaboo]

Wow ladies. I honestly feel really sorry for some of you. I really do. A&B, I think Judy's argument is coming from a place of genuine concern for you-- even if you don't read it that way. When some of us read your original post, it sounded like that parent was sort of ordering you to make a craft through his child. It rubbed me, and clearly some others the wrong way. Maybe you didn't take it that way and maybe the parent didn't mean it that way, we don't know, we weren't there. I'm going to go out on limb and assume that you, like most of us, plan your day. I bet you had yesterday more or less mapped out. You spent time (probably your free time) organizing your meals and your activities. It bothered me that a parent would come in and say to you (albeit through his child, which in itself is childish) to make a card/craft for his wife. That undermines YOU. You probably had a lovely day planned for your kids but this parent didn't acknowledge that. He made an assumption that he could throw yet another responsibility at you. I think a craft for mom's birthday is a lovely gesture that would be even better coming from the joint effort of father and child bonding time, not because you were given more work to do. This parent did what he did because he knew he could get away with it. He knew you would do it. If it doesn't make you feel taken advantage of then fine, all is well in your world. I know if a parent said that to me, I would be hurt. Hurt, that the day I planned was somehow not good enough or that I was already doing was not enough. I also know that the group of parents I have now would not ask me what this parent asked of you. Not because I don't care, not because I don't love my day care kids, but because they respect my the running of my day home. I felt like this particular parent was not respecting you and that is why I can see why Judy and the others are posting what they are posting.