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    Bad behavior at pick up

    Not sure what the deal is but one of my dck (1.5 yrs old) is wonderful all day in my care and the minute his mom comes through the door to pick up, he cries, runs away from her and just starts whining. She does absolutely nothing about it and actually watches as he climbs on things, uses her car keys to scratch my walls and door....arghhh! So annoying. Looks like she has no control over him. Weirdest of all is that he tends to turn to the wall, place his hands on the wall and starts banging his head against the wall repeatedly looking for a reaction. Weirdo! She claims that he does this at home to get her attention. I just really am curious why he turns into a lil devil the minute she arrives. Have any of you experienced this. Personally, I would cry if I had to go home with her too

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    I have one that is 18 months and just started into this behaviour. He gets his boots and throws them at mom. He goes to my front door and bangs on it. When asked to put his coat on it's a nice big "NO" as a response. He's fine all day with me and rarely says no to me. And if he does he certainly doesn't follow through.

    This same boy goes home and is a nightmare lately apparently. He won't go into his high chair. He hits his head against the wall. Throwing full tantrums on the floor when he doesn't get his way. A completely different child.

    I think it's the sign that I do my job. I have a good handle on the kids in my care and I'm consistent with my rules. They're happy, they listen, there's order to my house (as much as there can be with 5 little ones running around)

    I rarely step in and correct the behaviour. As soon as mom comes in the door my magical powers disapear and no one listens to me.

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    I have had kids melt down at pick up time for different reasons

    1- They want to show off in front of their parents or are craving for attention and therefore act up or they are testing the boundaries between the parent vs daycare provider

    2- They get an emotional meltdown because they can't process the emotions involved and the transition from saying bye to the fun/friends at daycare and the excitement of seeing their parent return.

    I would make a comment to the child and say 'we don't put the keys on Mambia's wall"

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    I had a child like this and it was so bad that mom would carry him out kicking and screaming .... So if this parent arrives at the same time every day then a quick fix is to have the child ready when the parent walks in. Then you say "ooihhhh mommys here well you have a terrific evening and ill see you tomorrow" and out they go ..... I currently have a mom that texts me when she is 5 mins out and I get the child ready cause he gives her the gears when she wants to out the coat on..... So now when she walks in he's all smiles and ready to go .
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    Oh dear, that child is over the top! You know, it's strange but the most dramatic over the top children I have had in care in 5 years have all been boys. Why is that? When I have a drama child in care I make sure I know exactly when the parents will be here to pick up and I have them dressed and ready and psyched up and excited to see Mom/Dad.

    Some children have a really hard time with change of any kind and it sounds like you have one of those little ones. Make sure you know who is picking up and at one time so you can properly prepare the child and have him ready.
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    Yup, this crazy phenomenon is simply referred to in the daycare world as "Changing of the Guard" I do exactly what momof4 does when I have a child that turns into the devil's spawn as soon as mom or dad come to the door.

    Get them ready 5 min. before pick up. Then simply hand child to parents out the door. No more power struggles and no more scratched walls

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    Quote Originally Posted by Other Mummy View Post
    Yup, this crazy phenomenon is simply referred to in the daycare world as "Changing of the Guard" I do exactly what momof4 does when I have a child that turns into the devil's spawn as soon as mom or dad come to the door.

    Get them ready 5 min. before pick up. Then simply hand child to parents out the door. No more power struggles and no more scratched walls
    I see someone here is a fan of Nannyde - The Daycare Whisperer.

    I read her blog post about "Changing of the guard"

    http://www.daycare.com/nannyde/the-d...in-daycare.htm

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    Yup! I love Nannyde, her blogs are very insightful and help give providers the confidence to grow a backbone in a lot of cases

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    Quote Originally Posted by Other Mummy View Post
    Yup! I love Nannyde, her blogs are very insightful and help give providers the confidence to grow a backbone in a lot of cases
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    Quote Originally Posted by Other Mummy View Post
    Yup! I love Nannyde, her blogs are very insightful and help give providers the confidence to grow a backbone in a lot of cases
    I have learned alot from her. She has a very no non-sense way of approaching things and she puts things into perspective in an easy to understand manner.

    She has recently started putting videos on youtube that demonstrate some of her methods.

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