I personally would just express my concerns to the parents and ask them to help you out at home by giving the child peices of fruit and veggies with the meals. As for the bottle, do the parents still hold it for the child? If so, tell them to stop that too. I personally would not be holding a bottle for a child that old. Give it to the child, and if they don't want to feed themselves, then they don't get the bottle. The child is old enough not to need that bottle for nutritional purposes as they eat prepared food, so it is not a bad thing if they don't drink it. The child is used to being coddled at home it sounds like.