Need More Advice. Would This Bother You?

[ladyjbug]

If you are giving notice for the DCG, then you must write in the termination letter your expectations. Such as, ANY DISRESPECT ON THE PART OF THE PARENT or breaking of your policies during the notice period will result in an IMMEDIATE TERMINATION with no refund of fees. I would also make sure you have someone there. If you have a husband, maybe make sure he is there, or a neighbor. I find bully parents have a harder time acting that way when there are witnesses.

[ladyjbug]

I wonder if I could ask that only mom does drop off and pick up until termination period is finished.

I did for one of my terminations. It lasted for two days before they pulled, but I did not refund fees.

[Sandbox Sally]

I only have my 13 yo dd to stand with me, but I mean I don't want her intimidated by this jerk, too! Dh is gone to work well before dcg will come.

[BlueRose]

You have the right to refuse a parent from entering your home if they make you uncomfortable. Just like you have the right to refuse anyone else in your home if they make you feel uncomfortable.

[sunnydays]

Alpha, I don't know what your contract says about termination, but I wonder why you are giving a notice period for the baby? Why not make it all effective immediately for both kids? If the parents have been rude and the baby is not adjusting the the boy is violent, you have grounds to make it immediate. Personally, I have that right in my contract and I am making my termination tonight effective immediately. There is no way I am going to put myself through another 2 weeks of this stress during which time things are only going to get worse as the parents will either be nasty or try to talk me out of my decision. I am refunding next week's fees (my vacation) as well as the deposit. I always like to take the high road on these things. I just want him gone.

[Sandbox Sally]

The reason is pure and simple - I can't afford to refund both of their fees as well as both deposits. I have nobody to replace them yet (although I have interviews in place), and I'm going to need those deposits to cover the gap in my income for the next little while. I'd love to be shut of them as of tonight, but my budget will not allow that.

[sunnydays]

Aww that sucks Alpha..I feel for you! I hope you fill the spots really quickly

[Sandbox Sally]

Ok, how's this?
March 22nd, 2013

Dear MOM AND DAD,

After a great deal of consideration I have decided that my daycare is not the best fit for BOY and GIRL. I have to do what is best for my business, my family, and my own emotional well-being.

I am forced to terminate care for BOY effective immediately, as his violent outbursts are endangering the other children, and I am very uncomfortable putting them in harm’s way. In the past two weeks, he has purposefully physically injured another child five times, and has injured me twice. Please understand the severity of this behaviour, and the implication it brings to my business. As per our signed contract, I am exercising the agreement of immediate termination, citing danger to others. Your deposit will not be returned to you for BOY, as I will have to try and fill his spot, and cannot in good conscience welcome him back into my home for the next several weeks. A check covering next week’s payment for BOY is enclosed.

I will continue to accept GIRL into care for the duration of fees paid, which means that her last day will be Thursday, April 11th, 2013. I further ask that ALL drop off and pick up for GIRL is performed only by MOM, as in the past, I have found DAD’s behaviour both physically and emotionally intimidating.

Thank you for the opportunity to provide care for your family, and I wish you very well in the future.

Kindest Regards,

ALPHA

[monkeymama]

I think the letter sounds great...but do you think they willl continue to send dcg? have you already been paid for the next two weeks? i think you are making the right decision, but be prepared after you give them that you probably wont see either child again.

[Sandbox Sally]

They pay two weeks at a time, instead of the usual one week. I ask for fees in advance, so they have their DD paid for three weeks.

The more I am thinking about this, the more I think I should really just suck it up and allow them to both attend next week. I'll just have to be all over him to ensure he doesn't hurt anyone.

UGH. I don't know. Should I just try to find money to pay the deposit back for the baby?