Stood Up

[Sandbox Sally]

What a day. I had an interview this evening. I have been talking to this mom for weeks. They were supposed to be here an hour and a half ago. They haven't called or emailed.

I got dressed up, cleaned from top to bottom, and ordered in for my kids because I knew I wouldn't have time to prepare and clean up a meal after work.

I feel like an idiot. I emailed her twenty minutes ago and asked what happened. She hasn't replied. I thought I really had this one in the bag. I have already been rejected for this space last week. To add insult to injury, I have a July vacancy, have been talking to a mom, and she emailed while I was waiting for this family to show to tell me that they've decided to go with someone else.

I sincerely hate this job sometimes. My self worth is shot right now.

[jammiesandtea]

Oh that just sucks, Alphaghetti. I'm sorry this woman stood you up; you deserve much better than that. Don't get down on yourself. From what I've read in your posts, you're a great provider with a great program, and good families would be lucky to have you. Try to keep your chin up. The best kind of golden families are going to find you, just wait. Sending you hugs and fill 'er up vibes.

[Momof4]

You do NOT want those families. They lose out on a great provider. I would feel sorry for them for being so selfish and inconsiderate except that they are just not WORTHY!

You will get the next ones and they will be great families.

[Monday 2 Friday Mama]

Rule Number 1: NEVER let someone else's bad behaviour make you feel badly about yourself.
Rule Number 2: Rude people s*ck.

I'm sorry that someone was so inconsiderate of your time. It's possibly the worst part of this job. Any other industry - your dentist, a doctor's appointment, a dinner reservation - would nail this kind of behaviour with a penalty fee. Don't you wish we could do something like that ? LOL

Thank goodness tomorrow is Friday. Treat yourself to some pretty flowers, or maybe something delicious to eat. You're an awesome caregiver. You consistantly have good advice here on the forum, and I have my fingers, toes and ears crossed that you find an amazing family soon.

[someone]

I am new to these boards bur agree with the above. Please do not let this deflate you, although sometimes it is difficult. The best part of this job are the amazing little people that we get to look after each day and help mold into amazing people. The down side is dealing with some (not all) adults and how for some unknown reason they do not have any respect for us and the fact that we are the ones raising their children for them.

If this person/couple did not give you the courtesy of calling to cancel the appointment in advance then they are certainly a family you do not want to be doing daycare for. You will have the right family join your daycare...it will all work out. We are here for you.

[Other Mummy]

Oh Alphagetti...Great advice here but I know no matter how right everyone is, you still feel like you've been hit in the gut! Buggers. Well....they've lost out on a great provider for their little one...and you my dear have dodged a bullet..can you imagine how inconsiderate of your time they would be if you had signed them on?!

You'll fill that spot. And it will be with someone who respects you and your time!!

[cfred]

I'm sorry to hear that....sucks.

There's no accounting for some people's behaviour and rudeness I wouldn't feel too terrible about firing off a quick email, just indicating how rude she was in fact. There's no need to be unprofessional, but there's also no reason that we need to just suck it up and take crap from people either. If she didn't want to come for the interview in the end, that's all she had to say.

Feel better and know that perfect interview where everything clicks will come. I know exactly how you feel right now as I've been there. I'm heavy into the interviewing process for one spot now. Nothing like a clipboard mom to take you down a notch and pick apart you, your home, your life, your practices.....fuuuuu unnnnnn! Hang in there woman! It'll be over soon!

[Spixie33]

It would make me wonder if it was another provider messing around with you and feeling you out.

That seems pretty strange for a parent to correspond for a few weeks and not show or say a peep.

In any case - make like a duck with water and try to let it slide off your back. That would have made for an unreliable client anyways. Try to not overthink it.

It really sucks though. I know the feeling. I have been stood up before and it is such a waste of time and very disrespectful/insulting

[mimi]

Alphagetti, the reason you feel so bad is because you can not understand how someone could do this because you would never do this. Take a deep breath, and be grateful you did not take on someone like her. Everyone can change their mind, but a no show is the action of a nasty coward.
At least your house is clean for the weekend Have a good one.

[DisneyPrincess]

I agree with the ladies. Parents are rude and disrespectful idiots. I had a few like that in the past month and I was getting bummed since I was looking since november. But, I did find what I was looking for. I had to do some compromise (like part time instead of full time) but financially it all works out.

It is not easy but please dont give up and think positive, I know its hard !! I just wish for you that these stupid parents will call back and you'll have to set the boundaries right away or... just be happy to disregard them (thats what I would do)