Mandatory "good morning" from my kids??

[gcj]

Just need to know if I'm over-thinking this since I'm tired and cranky today

This morning, a 2yo dcg arrived at 7:10, which is a new schedule this week that we're ALL adjusting to. My 5yo daughter had been up for all of five minutes and was still sleepy. She walked by dcg without saying anything while the mom was at the door. So, mom says "you're not even going to say hi to _______?" So , I immediately explained that she was particularly sleepy this morning and my daughter proceeded to say hello, feeling bad that she was being corrected by another mom, who come to think of it didn't say hi to my daughter before correcting her!!

SO, is my daughter obliged to welcome each child as they arrive? I feel that she tolerates what I do and is as pleasant as she needs to be. When she's more awake and feels like it, she interacts and plays, but is that enough?

[mimi]

I am all for manners and saying hello as you come across someone in your home is one I promote with my own child. HOWEVER, your little one just woke up so I think she should be given a pass by dcmom, besides, it was rude of HER to point this out and not her job to correct your child. If she wanted to exchange hello's she should have started with herself saying good morning and then have her child do so as well (if old enough). This woman should really just mind her own business.

[MunchkinMinder]

I don't force my daughter to interact/welcome the children as they arrive. I have only ever had 1 instance of a parent trying to correct her and she turned to the parent and flat out said "you're not my mommy" and walked away from her with out another word. IMO our children are NOT in any way obligated to interact in any specific way with the day care children. This is their home and if they don't feel like saying hello or anything else 5 minutes after getting up then they don't have to. But that is just IMO.

[apples and bananas]

I believe in teaching by example. If this parents was parenting effectivly she would have prompted the hello by saying it first and leading by example.

Maybe she was just cranky too.

It would certainly throw me off if a daycare parent tried to correct one of my children.

[playfelt]

Saying hello to the daycare child and parent is your job not your daughter's job. She just lives there. It is no different than when the second or third child arrive do you make all of the early arrivals dutifully line up and in chorus say hello - I hope not.

I get that the parent thought your child was just being rude and ignoring them and ok time difference means new routines for everyone so parent will also have to get used to the idea that your child needs some space in the morning before she is ready to interact with anyone.

The mom was out of line to say something. Her daughter is not the most important person in the daycare.

[gcj]

Glad to know it's not just me then. She was super-relaxed mom while on mat leave (her older daughter was fulltime while she was on mat leave), but since going back to work, she's all stressy and control freakish.

[Momof4]

Omigosh gcj, those people should be lucky you are opening the door with your eyes open at 7:10. That's when I'm getting up to start work at 7:30. This Mom sounds kind of demanding and controlling, but it's your home and your daughter's home so I think it's incredibly rude that she was trying to set rules for your family, yeeesh!

[daycarewhisperer]

My son isn't a part of the daycare so I would be furious if a parent spoke to him like that. I would have told her that he has been taught that this is HIS home first and the daycare children and parents are GUESTS in his home.

[DisneyPrincess]

Wow another fn bitchy mom... sorry my language. I just cant take that they are rude themselves is so many other ways as well.

One tried saying Hi to my pre-teen one morning... yah good luck with that. First he spoke to her in english and she doesnt want to speak english. She looked at him with a ''wtf'' and still said ''Allo'' but in a very low voice haha I told him : Teenagers !! not much vocabulary. Hey if he as a problem with that, I'll tell him : wait until your daughter turns 12... its an entire ball game !

They can mind their own bizz !!

[mom-in-alberta]

I am all for good manners and saying hello, etc. But it's 7 in the morning for heaven's sake! I am sure it was pretty obvious that your daughter had just rolled out of bed and was wiping sleep out of her eyes.
I come to the door and greet the children. Because that is MY job. My children live here, and they do thier part to be good to the dc kids. But I am not hounding them first thing in the morning, just to make one person feel "special". Did Mom tell her 2 y/o to say good morning to your daughter? Doesn't sound like it. And she didn't even bother to set a good example herself.
I would have just reminded Mom that she wasn't even awake yet.