Parent on Vacation

[gcj]

That is sad. I hate those stories.

[Naftafia]

Oh I could relate to everything above. My brother in law, who is also my second neighbour, will come home early 2-3 days a week (anywhere between 2-4pm), however both his kids will be picked up at 4:55-5:00 by my sister. Although that is enough to bother me (I will never say anything to him because I am being paid), his eldest is my only school pick up in the afternoon... so I will get all the kiddies dressed and walk to school (even during winter storms) to pick him up when his dad is at home playing video games
They have done this for days off too.... I always have my nephews, even until closing time on Christmas eve!
But... what can you do? I try to simply enjoy my time with them and ignore the rest!

[boygirlgirlboy]

In my case dad is mid 30's and mom late 20's. Both "professional" and the only parents I have ever had who bring the kid NO MATTER WHAT!! Yes, I'm being paid and I get that...but please spend a little time with your child. Dad gets home from work at 6:30 and dcb goes to bed at 7:00. He's my first one to come and last one to go!
One morning they're walking in as my husband's walking out. My husband asked, "what's wrong with his eye"?..."oh he had a fit because he couldn't have something, hit himself"....well as soon as I got the other dck's organised and brought him down, the kid had pink eye. They totally knew it...but gosh forbid they miss a day of work. Did they not think I was going to call? Why even try to hide it. My blood boils when I think of it.
Oh well, they won't be here much longer. I gave them my notice because of a family obligation that came up. I just couldn't do their hours anymore. I feel for the kid.....

[gcj]

Oh I could relate to everything above. My brother in law, who is also my second neighbour, will come home early 2-3 days a week (anywhere between 2-4pm), however both his kids will be picked up at 4:55-5:00 by my sister. Although that is enough to bother me (I will never say anything to him because I am being paid), his eldest is my only school pick up in the afternoon... so I will get all the kiddies dressed and walk to school (even during winter storms) to pick him up when his dad is at home playing video games
They have done this for days off too.... I always have my nephews, even until closing time on Christmas eve!
But... what can you do? I try to simply enjoy my time with them and ignore the rest!

I couldn't do it! It's one thing to feel bitter and resentful towards dcps, but when it's family? eww...I'd have a hard time getting over it. I'm not good at that stuff!

[crafty]

I also had a family like that ... Mom was working part-time and most of the time she finished at 2h00pm ... Still she was here to pick up at 5h29pm, ALL THE TIME and EVERYDAY. Even when she was not working. This child spent 10 hours with me 7 days/week. I saw Dad once in a year. I just don't get it. I mean once in a while yes ... but ALL the time ?? Why do they have kids... ?

[Sandbox Sally]

Really? I don't begrudge parents of small children wanting a little "me time". The times I get pissed off about it is when either the kid KNOWS the parent is off and ditching them at daycare, or when the parents are still LATE for pick up. I mean, on principle, I think it's a little weird to not want to spend time with your kid, but I also get how hard and tiring it is to have small kids, so if I was paying for daycare, I'd likely send my littles even if I was home. Shrug.

A week's vacation, and you're dropping your kids with me every day? That's just sad and mean.

[sunnydays]

Oh, I can sooooo relate to this thread! I had a family before with two kids with me and they were always the first to arrive and last to leave no matter if the parents were on vacation or not working or whatever. At least they did also take the kids on vacation as well, but it made me sad that they would spend such long days away from their parents needlessly. After that experience, I changed my hours so I wuoldn't be so frustrated having kids stay later when I knew their parents were at home cooking dinner before coming to pick them up.

[Trace of Angels]

Do they pay a mortgage? Do they pay their mortgage no matter how much or how little the use their house? Do they not go on a vacation because they are paying for their house so they might as well use it.............I would guess no. SOOOOO just because they pay for their spot why do they feel they MUST use it?
And don't their children deserve a bit of a vacation as well?
And what about a little break and thank you to their provider who is doing an amazing job at raising their children?
I have heard every excuse in the book, I have to clean the house, they are bored with me, they wanted to come today, they miss their friends...........I think whatever, you are probably right, they probably are better off with me, at least I love them!
With all that being said I found that as soon as I let go of the fact that there are so many different types of parents out there and taught myself to not let it bother me anymore it is just much easier to get on with the day, week and month ahead

[gcj]

Really? I don't begrudge parents of small children wanting a little "me time". The times I get pissed off about it is when either the kid KNOWS the parent is off and ditching them at daycare, or when the parents are still LATE for pick up. I mean, on principle, I think it's a little weird to not want to spend time with your kid, but I also get how hard and tiring it is to have small kids, so if I was paying for daycare, I'd likely send my littles even if I was home. Shrug.

A week's vacation, and you're dropping your kids with me every day? That's just sad and mean.

A little "me time" is one thing. The post was started about 2 weeks vacation and the child here full-time the entire 2 weeks! That's not a little me time. That's screwed up priorities.

[Sandbox Sally]

Do they pay a mortgage? Do they pay their mortgage no matter how much or how little the use their house? Do they not go on a vacation because they are paying for their house so they might as well use it.............I would guess no. SOOOOO just because they pay for their spot why do they feel they MUST use it?
And don't their children deserve a bit of a vacation as well?
And what about a little break and thank you to their provider who is doing an amazing job at raising their children?
I have heard every excuse in the book, I have to clean the house, they are bored with me, they wanted to come today, they miss their friends...........I think whatever, you are probably right, they probably are better off with me, at least I love them!
With all that being said I found that as soon as I let go of the fact that there are so many different types of parents out there and taught myself to not let it bother me anymore it is just much easier to get on with the day, week and month ahead

That's a little harsh, no?