Refuses to say sorry

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My rules are 1 minute per year old in time out and they have to say sorry afterwards. The reason for saying sorry is that when you say sorry you are admitting that what you did was wrong and you are taking responsibility for that. Even if the child meant to hurt someone at the time, going back and saying sorry means the child is taking responsibility for his/her own actions and admitting they were in the wrong. Too many people nowadays don't bother to ever say their sorry even when they know what they did was wrong! I think it is important to go back and make amends with the people we have wronged, and that's why I enforce them to say sorry after their time out. Even if they shout out sorry before the time out, they still go in a time out (consequences for their actions).

[Skysue]

Sorry ladies I totally disagree, they will and should say sorry in my care. Kids know right from wrong at a very early age, my kids will sit when they deliberately hurt their friends on a time out. A minute per age doesn’t work either so I will gauge it depending on there age.

Taking privileges away I think is a more appropriate method. i.e. not allowing them to watch a quite time video or not allowing them to play with a specific toy…

We say sorry in my care and we hug, if it was an accident then I ask them to think about how they would feel if it happened to them and usually a big sorry will come next.

If they are on a time out for hurting deliberately you better believe they will be saying sorry.