Nervous about Confrontation

[momofnerds]

just don't open the door. just because he shows up doesn't mean you need to acknowledge them. Also, if you think there may be trouble just call the police and ask them what to do, explain the situation and they may do a drive by. In case they do show up, is there anyone that can be with you as a witness even another parent or a husband of the parent.

[Sandbox Sally]

thanks all

[sunnydays]

I agree with the others...do not open the door and make sure your own children know not to open the door either (make sure all doors are locked)! You are totally within your rights to keep the deposit...but personally, this is why the two times I have termed, I just returned it as well as any fees paid for services not yet rendered. I did not want to risk any kind of confrontation or blow-up since I am here alone with kids all day. For the dcb I just terminated on the weekend, I returned the deposit as well as this week's fees. The mom came to pick it up along with his belongings yesterday afternoon while my husband was home (I would not have allowed her to come unless he was here). Everything was extremely civil...no words about anything were exchanged...just a simple "Here is the stuff, cheques are in this envelope, let me know if anything is missing" and that was it. She chose to bring dcb to the door...I think to try to make me feel bad...but I did not take the bait and it is all over now. I know I could have argued that the deposit was mine to keep as dcb's behaviour endangered the other kids...but it wasn't worth the fight or risk of an irate parent going wacko on me. Good luck and I hope this all dies down quickly for you!

[Sandbox Sally]

thanks all