Nervous about Confrontation

[Sandbox Sally]

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[Bookworm]

It's not your fault at all! They are bullies and are trying to bully you.
Can you maybe call your local police station and ask what they suggest you do.
I wouldn't answer the door if the man shows up. I would then tell them if they do show up, you will call the police to remove them from your property.
If you really are that intimidated by the husband, then please do not open the door to him. You should not be made to feel afraid in your own home.

[playfelt]

Llike father like son - maybe they should think about that one. Why does the mother feel the need to send the father other than to intimidate and harrass.

Expect them to be pulling the other child too with no notice in retaliation.

[momofnerds]

just don't open the door. just because he shows up doesn't mean you need to acknowledge them. Also, if you think there may be trouble just call the police and ask them what to do, explain the situation and they may do a drive by. In case they do show up, is there anyone that can be with you as a witness even another parent or a husband of the parent.

[Sandbox Sally]

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[Sandbox Sally]

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[sunnydays]

I agree with the others...do not open the door and make sure your own children know not to open the door either (make sure all doors are locked)! You are totally within your rights to keep the deposit...but personally, this is why the two times I have termed, I just returned it as well as any fees paid for services not yet rendered. I did not want to risk any kind of confrontation or blow-up since I am here alone with kids all day. For the dcb I just terminated on the weekend, I returned the deposit as well as this week's fees. The mom came to pick it up along with his belongings yesterday afternoon while my husband was home (I would not have allowed her to come unless he was here). Everything was extremely civil...no words about anything were exchanged...just a simple "Here is the stuff, cheques are in this envelope, let me know if anything is missing" and that was it. She chose to bring dcb to the door...I think to try to make me feel bad...but I did not take the bait and it is all over now. I know I could have argued that the deposit was mine to keep as dcb's behaviour endangered the other kids...but it wasn't worth the fight or risk of an irate parent going wacko on me. Good luck and I hope this all dies down quickly for you!

[BlueRose]

Do you have a neighbor or friend who could come over and stay with you. It might make yo feel better to have another person in the house with you. Lock your doors and only let the dcp that are picking up in. Let your local police know and have a copy of their contract ready if the police show up. Make notes of everything they say to you. If they call again tell them you will no longer speak with them, that all communication must be done via email (this gives you proof of what is being said), if they insist on speaking to you then inform them you will only speak with their lawyer and not them directly.

[PattyCake]

yikes! you do not deserve to be bullied like that. Do you have a close neighbor you could call upon to come over or just take some extra peeks out a window during the day to make sure things are okay? Keep a phone with you if possible at all times, and if you are going to answer the door, I would have 911 pre-dialed this way if things get confrontational and out of control you have access to them immediately. You'd hope that they, as parents would be calm and rational especially in front of children, but just in case it goes the other way it's best to be prepared. Good luck, stay strong, and stand firm.

[Sandbox Sally]

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