Needavacay I understand what you're going through. I have a dcm that her daughter on occasion does the same thing. Or it's the opposite and her daughter doesn't want her to go. She will give a hug and a kiss goodbye about ten times. Well by the tenth time her daughter is so upset and doesn't want her mom to leave. She starts crying her mom will pry her off put her down then say mommy has to go but then pick her up again and it just gets worse. The whole time she's saying well don't you like it here? You're so upset. Why what's going on here that makes you upset. So I end up saying you're making it worse she wouldn't be crying had you left ten minutes ago and not made her think you were staying. This is the same dcm I've had to put a gate up to prevent her from walking right in and walking all over my house. She will say she will be by at a certain time then show up and hour and a half later. Then when her daughter is itching to go she will say well why are you so excited to leave do you not like it here ? And ill jump in Amd say I think she's happy to go cause she's been told for the last hour and a half that mommy should be here any minute. Then it gets brushed off like I didn't say anything. The days she doesn't want to leave the mom gets angry and upset and says she will leave her here then so then I kind of help her dcb out the door lol cause I don't want her there any longer haha. I think you may have to be a bit rude with the Dcd and when he accuses setjkng just keep putting him on his place like you did with the snow. But do bring it up with the mom when it's something you think he might twist at home. I do it with my parents that way I don't get accused for things I didn't do.